I remember my first Mother’s Day. I had high hopes for something special, obviously, not from my 6 month old, but perhaps from Mr. OverKill. We had only been married for two years, and I still had some unreasonable expectations of my dear hubby. He tried his best, and took care of Bubba for me that afternoon so I could have a little break. It was a very little break, but he tried.
Each year, Mr. OverKill got a little better at Mother’s Day gifts. The year I was 9 months pregnant with Little Man, he bought me a beautiful bracelet I had admired at a local jewelry shop. I thought, “Now he’s getting the hang of it.” :)
The truth of it is, Mr. OverKill stinks at giving gifts on actual holidays(this is not news to him). And it is a big deal to me, because as corny as it sounds, receiving gifts is one of my love languages. Seriously, you want to do something nice for me, give me a gift. But, I will say that when Mr. OK does think of something good to surprise me with, he does it, whether it’s a holiday or not.
You know, I spent several holidays disappointed, but it wasn’t Mr. OverKill’s fault, it was mine. Guess what? He’s not a mind reader! All those years, I felt guilty for wanting a gift, and even worse when I was bummed because I didn’t get a gift. I was too insecure to tell him how much it meant to me to receive something from him, even if it was something small. In recent years, we have been able to have that conversation, and now Mr. OverKill tries harder than ever to get gifts for me on holidays, or even just for no reason at all. Sometimes, it’s just a candy bar, but it means so much to me. It’s more than the gift, it shows me that he was thinking about me….
My point?
Well, my point is just this, your guy is not a mind reader. If Mother’s Day is a big deal to you, let him know in a loving and respectful way. Maybe it’s not Mother’s Day, maybe it’s your birthday, or teachers appreciation week ;) Let your man know, and then be his helpmate. This past year at Christmas, I was determined not to tell Mr. OverKill what I wanted him to get for me. I thought, “Oh it will be so much more romantic if it comes straight out of his brain.” But you know what, the Lord convicted me that I was being selfish and unhelpful to my hubby. So, I wrote him a list and left it on his night stand. You know, he appreciated that so much! And I can assure you, I have never shed tears over a Christmas gift until this past year. It was every bit as sweet as I had imagined it would be, if he had thought of it on his own.
Guys don’t think like we do ladies, and sometimes, they just need their helpmate to help them out a bit.